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It’s All Good – Sexual Fantasies: A Playground for Your Pleasure

 

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For my second column I was going to start delving into specific topics but then this article passed through my social media feed, “When It Comes to Sexual Fantasies, What’s Normal?”

 

Hmmm…normal, really, that’s the word we want to use there?

 

Since this touches on a number of topics I may cover as we go, I decided to address this right up front. So what is “normal” when it comes to sexual fantasies?

 

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Anything. Seriously, anything. I said everything was okay as long as you were comfortable with it, right? Well, in fantasy you can go even further and play with things you may well not be comfortable with in real life. Which is the important thing to focus on in this study, no matter how poorly worded it is. If you think the things that get you aroused are odd or weird or perverse, you just need to remember you’re not the only one who likes them; just because you like to watch things or read things that seem out of the ordinary, it doesn’t mean there is anything wrong with you.

 

Fantasy is a safe zone. It can take you away to a different place where you feel safer and bolder than you are in real life. It can let you investigate things that intrigue you but that you would find too intimidating to try. Fantasies of dominance, submission, bondage and discipline are far more common than you think. It may mean this is something that speaks to a deeper part of you, but that part may be well served by reading a hot erotic novel or some fanfic and then letting your partner reap the benefits of your fantasies without ever having to indulge them.

 

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It may also be a way to dip your toe in the water of something that secretly excites you but scares the living hell out of you too. A way of pushing your own boundaries safely, without external pressures. If there is one thing I keep coming back to it’s that your sexuality should always be under your control, even if you’re relinquishing it by choice.

 

So if sex is how adults play, fantasy is the indoor playground you visit on rainy days. A place to try something different on for size. You may find you like it or you may find you hate it, but because it’s all within the realm of your own mind, there is never any harm done.

 

So go play, it’s good for you.

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It’s All Good – A Geek Girl’s Guide to Love and Sex

*New Column Alert!

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I want to open this, my first sex column, by saying that when I say this is a “geek girl’s guide to love and sex” that’s only because I am a geek girl and I am writing it from my point of view. I would trust that many non-geek women would share many of the same hopes, fears and hungers as I do, so don’t feel excluded by the title. What do I want to talk about? Well, everything, of course. Mostly I just want to say that whatever you like, whatever you’re into, whatever gets you off, it’s OK. Seriously. Women aren’t really taught that.

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San Diego Comic Con Travels Through the Stones with ‘Outlander’

Now that my keening and wailing at having missed out on yet another San Diego Comic Con has passed, I can tell you that ‘Outlander’ pulled out all the stops at SDCC this year. Even bringing along a “freaking castle!

If it brought me nothing but this picture, it would be enough:

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…sighhhhh…

…but there were also SO MANY MEN IN KILTS!!!

Inside:

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…and out:
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More importantly there were more glimpses at what is to be when it comes to the show. We got our first look at the opening credits:

 

As well as a brand new trailer:

 

Sadly there was also a panel, which I’m still working through my pain at missing. *rending of clothes and much sobbing* Starz, in their infinite wisdom, has put the entire thing up online for our viewing pleasure:

 

While I couldn’t be there to enjoy all the Outlandishness I can comfort myself with the knowledge that the show is having it’s online premiere this weekend.

I am so ready to pass through the stones and finally get to Jamie…uh I mean watch this sure to be awesome show…yeah that’s what I meant, really…